You’re Enough

Not everyone will find you attractive. Not everyone will find your personality agreeable, but here’s the most important thing to remember.

*It’s not you. Ever.*

I have married a white girl, a Korean girl, and a Native American girl. The standards by which I choose a woman vary depending on what I am searching for. (A hookup versus a friend or s/o)

But you see – *My choices reflect what I value, not what you are worth.*

Maybe you’re short and they prefer tall. Maybe you’re thick and they prefer thin. You are who you are and that does not make you less of anything based on someone else’s opinion of you. You determine your worth.

We never like our reflection and our own worst critic. Next time you look in the mirror, see the person you are and not your past or future-self. Look at the here and now. You’re not who you were yesterday and not who you will be tomorrow. Love yourself in the moment. You’re enough. You’ll find the right person when you’re supposed to. Till then, enjoy your life and the discovery of who you are.

I made memories with women I never believed I could have – because they saw something in me they valued. I’ve been cheated on by two of my ex-wives. Their adultery was not a reflection of my worth. Cheaters cheat because something inside of them is broken.

So no matter if it is a love or lust interest – We are only “not good enough” for people who would value us for the wrong reasons to start with.

Unless you are literally a slave, your value as a human being cannot be determined by anyone but you.