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The idea of fate/destiny has been a discussion I’ve had with myself for many years. In my youth, I believed we made our path from cradle to grave. How hard we worked towards our goals and the decisions we made determined our path. Total manifested destiny regardless of whether or not you believed in a higher power.

Over time, that began to change. Based on my observations throughout my life, I believe I now understand how it works.

I call it guided destiny.

I believe our life goal is determined before birth, but how we get to it isn’t guaranteed and the decisions we make along the way can create circumstances that are either favorable or detrimental to how long it takes to arrive at the finish line.

There’s no such thing as coincidences. Every person who comes into your life for more than just a moment has a purpose -but it may not be for a positive lesson. Sometimes we get a wrecking ball instead of a birthday cake.

I do believe we are capable of manifesting certain aspects of our life, but I also question whether or not the idea to manifest whatever we’re working was placed there to begin with – like a voice in our ear delivering ideas into our minds.

For example – I know someone who studied for over a year to take a test that would influence their ability to get a job in the U.S.. Just before they took the exam, she decided to delay taking it. The next test date was 6 months out. She felt terrible for delaying it, but something told her she wasn’t ready. A few months later, she received a major honor -an invitation to speak at a global seminar for people in her field. It was the first time she had applied and no one else she knew was accepted. A month after her invitation, she took the exam she had put off and while she passed with an above average score, she was devastated that she didn’t do better. She has set the bar for herself so high that most of the time her expectations are not realistic -yet she pushes herself relentlessly.

Knowing what I know about her, had she taken the test prior to receiving the invitation, she would have not felt worthy of such an honor and declined the offer. That voice inside her head telling her she wasn’t ready to take the test knew the order things had to enter her life. She needed the confidence boost from the invitation to help ease the severe disappointment from her test score.

That was the most recent sequence of events I can recall, but my personal life has been absolutely riddled with instances where I can look back and understand why certain things happened in the order they did.

I also see where, when I strayed or ignored the path I felt I should actually be on, I would eventually be brought back to it – sometimes violently.

So, at the end of the day, I believe it’s more of a guided fate type thing. The speed at which we get there is up to us, if we get there at all, however; where we are going has already been decided.

The crazy thing is that part of me believes that once you meet your goal, your time here ends -which is why so many talented people have their cards punched at a young age. They make the impact they’re supposed to, then move on. We see it as being taken too soon, when in reality they reached their life goal sooner than most.